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Great Expectations – 39

Fathers or Partners

While you are pregnant, the father or partner is also going through changes, anxieties, fears, doubts, joys and stresses – just like you! Try to include your partner in the pregnancy as much as possible. This can be one of the closest emotional times in your relationship, so take time to discuss your expectations and fears. Attend birthing classes together, and try to make your partner a part of your daily exercises, like an evening walk. Visit your healthcare professional together and encourage questions about the pregnancy. As always, communication is important because your partner may feel left out and not really a part of the pregnancy. Talk about the fears, concerns and delights both of you are experiencing. Pregnancy is a special time for both of you.

Other Children

If this is not your frst child, give other children advance notice about the new baby. They will become curious as your pregnancy progresses. Do not take their fears lightly. They may feel left out and have questions and worries about their position in the family. They need to be reassured before and after the birth that they are still loved. Consider including your partner and children in prenatal visits to the healthcare provider.

Do not tell your children only how great having a baby is going to be. Tell them the truth! Babies are a lot of fun and a lot of trouble, too. They cry and are messy. Still, they are wonderful.

Prepare your children for the reality of having a new baby in the house, and there will be less room for fear and resentment. Ask your child, “How do you feel about this baby?” before and after the birth. Then just listen. And do not say, “That’s silly” or “You shouldn’t feel that way.” Children usually have very mixed feelings about a new baby. Try including them in the pregnancy by letting them help buy baby clothes, paint the nursery and plan for the baby’s arrival. Do not be shy about your body. Let them see how it is expanding. Pregnancy is a beautiful experience, so do not hide it.

Caring for the

Rest of the Family

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